If these are my brothers video response blog!


A video blog responding to some questions I received In regards to the article I wrote on bannerofmodesy.com If These Are My Brother.


The Misconception of Modesty

I have overheard several people say that word “Modesty” was such an old fashion term. In fact they believe that I should change the name Banner of Modesty to something like Banner of Meekness or Banner of Simplicity, or perhaps the Nay Sayers would love Banner of Wack-ness. However, first that will never happen lol… Second, one of the main missions of this organization is to resurrect the word Modesty; not just in theory, but in practice!

Modesty has been resting in peace for far too long… In today’s society we can see the devastating effects that the lack of modesty has provided to this culture. Also this is not just a “secular issue” that excludes Christian women… but now we as a body of believers have to address this issue in some of our local fellowships.

You may ask, “What is Modesty… really?”

On Dictionary.com Modesty have three definitions

  1. Modesty is freedom from vanity and boastfulness
  2. Modesty is a regard for decency and of behavior, speech, dress, ect.
  3. Modesty is simplicity and moderation

According to Wikipedia a modest person does not draw attention to their own real or supposed accomplishments and desirable attributes.

I mean I can go on and on with different definitions found from different resources about how the world defines Modesty. However the real questions are….How is Modesty defined for a woman who professes to be a believer? And how can we see women and girls in this generation impacted and inspired enough, to want to be Modest?

Well first, we can never address Modesty with an unbeliever…they will never understand the concept of being a “Modest Woman” unless they come to know Christ and understand that they are saved by grace and not works. Also we do not want to raise up a generation of “robots,” where we are saying look like this, act like this, think like this, and dress like that.

Next, there is no clear definition for Modesty found in the word of God.


So you may be wondering now, why does the modern church associate the term “Modesty” with “Long Skirts” and “Loose Clothing?” Well my guess is, a lot of traditional pastors like to refer to verses like 1 Peter 3:3-4

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

Or even 1 Timothy 2:9

Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,

And hands down the argument that the bible does clearly address this term can be won with those two verses alone…

Nope! This is still not a clear definition of Modesty.

We must take a look at these verse hermeneutically (hermeneutics according to Wikipedia, is the art and science of text interpretation). Although Paul appeared to be addressing the issue of the way a woman adorns herself and dress, the underlining meaning of these verse were to encourage Christian women to simple live….HOLY.

Yep…Paul was addressing the issues of the heart and not the hemline!

Let’s Take a Deeper Look:

1st, the Author of 1 Timothy is Paul and Peter was the Author of 1 Peter

2nd, Their audience both times were Christian Women, (meaning they believed that the women they were addressing in these passages had somewhere in there life confessed that Jesus Christ died on the cross for their sins)

3rd, The time period was around A.D. 59-61 and during this time, history shows us that women typically wore Stola’s which were very simple, long pieces of cloth, that doubled in the middle, and was sewed up on both sides, leaving room only for the arms and a slit at the top for the head. However, some of the women wore them open on each side, from the bottom up above the knee, so as to discover a part of the thigh. This was typically done by very young women or immodest women of their time. Also we learn if we study the background of both books, that the Gentile women adorn themselves with bands of gold and arranged their hair in plaits also known as braids.

So before I continue we can gather from our brief history lesson, that all women during the time Paul wrote 1 Timothy and Peter wrote 1 Peter wore long loose fitting robes down to their feet.

The next thing we can gather is that if the only difference between the robes were the slits on the side that showed a little thigh, typically worn by younger a woman.

And last, we can clearly see here that during this particular time period, women who adorned themselves in gold and pearls were the Gentile women. These women did not know Christ, and idolized their beauty and image.

So our final observation should be here just based on the background, is that Paul and Peter did not use the illustration of clothing to show us what the right way to dress was or the wrong way to dress was. They simply gave this illustration to encourage Christian women, who professed godliness, to live out what they profess and not conform to the world around them.

They were stating… don’t be consumed with the gold jewelry and or pearls, or how your hair looks… Do not let your adorning be external like the young girls or the Gentile woman; but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

They were stating, have self-control over vanity and the idol desires of your heart.

Surly Paul and Peter could not have foreseen todays fashion trends of skinny jeans, halter tops, and hair extensions… However because of Gods sovereignty they were able to preach a message then that we can apply to our life now, which is to pursue Godliness.

So for the believing woman, the clear message in these verses is, Godly women are modest women because they have a desire to please God. It is not… Godly women should dress in long skirts with no jewelry or hair weaving because this will make her appear modest.

It is always a heart check. Banner of Modesty will never address your appearance first, because we know that if we teach women how to “look like” Christians, we will still be doing an injustice to this generation of women and young girls. Anyone can put on “church clothes” in the words of Lecrea, and appear to have it all together. In fact, I know a few women who appear to be naturally meek and humble and unfashionable in their appearance, but behind closed doors struggles with lust, adultery, and even pornography. However, if we focus on the things that woman deal with in their heart like; rejections, loneliness, hurt, shame, pride, low self-esteem, lust, and many other things and point them to Christ as the one who can redeem them and restore them in all areas of their life, then that is where we will began to see an impact on the way woman present themselves in a immodest society.

Ladies, What Do Your Clothes Say About You? (Modesty Part I) | CJ Mahaney


Do you think it is fair to “Judge a book by its cover?” Does the way you dress really matter if you say that you are believer and love God? In the video CJ Mahaney answers those questions and he also leaves us with something to ponder…

If my clothing was places in front of the mirror of the gospel…what would I see?

Modesty in the Church!

A young woman walked into the church located at the corner of her block, hoping to find a little bit of peace on that day. She came in dressed in a small black skirt and a tight red lace blouse and went to sit at the only open seat she saw located towards the front of the church. However as she walked closer to the front, she could feel the looks piercing at her from every angle. She felt every lustful glance, to every judgmental glare. Finally, she made it to the seat and before she could sit down, the lady with the big fancy hat and navy blue pin striped suit on sitting in that row, places her bible and purse there to indicate that the seat was taken. The young lady stopped in her tracks and her eyes filled with tears, but she quickly blinked her eyes several times to keep the tears from falling down her face. As she turned to walk back towards the door she heard giggles and then an older lady say;

“That child must be lost!”

When she arrived back home, she went up stairs to her bedroom and shat the door. She began to cry. Last night she watched her step dad strangle her mother for several minutes before her mother passed out. Later that night she was forces to have sex with him, and then threaten to never tell, or else he would kill her and move on to her 4 year old sister. That morning as she dressed herself for church in the only “decent” clothing she thought she had; she made up her mind that she wanted to give her life to God, not because she thought things could get better. However, because she heard that with Christ she would find peace to get through this life.

Unfortunately, that day she was rejected by the “Church.” Unfortunately, that day, not one person cared enough to make room for her to sit. Unfortunately, that day she decided that this life was just too much to bear and she ended it with one cut to the wrist.

I did not share this story to condemn the way most churches handle women and girls who come into the church dressed immodest, nor am I justifying some women who dress immodest to seek attention from the opposite sex. However I am advocating for the women and girls, who have no clue of how to be a modest women and they need more Godly women to stop judging them and to start being the role model they need. No, it is not your responsibility to save the world. However, Yes as believers it is your responsibility to care. It is not the hemline that should concern us, it is the HEART!

Let’s address the social issue of immodest dress and behavior, by spreading the gospel of Jesus Christ and offering our hands.

Scriptures to meditate on:

1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

John 7:24  “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.”

Titus 2:3-5 “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”

Written By: Tiheasha Beasley