He does whatever that he pleases!!! #Lesson Learned

heavenHu-Man will never understand the majestic wonders of Jesus Christ! It is now 2013 and I am still trying to figure out why God allowed certain things to happen to me wayyyyyy back in 1998! However this is normal! We are humans and we will never understand why God allows “bad things to happen to good people,” or “why the rich seem to keep getting richer,” or ect ect.  But one thing that has given me peace as a believer is knowing….

Our God is in the heavens; he does all that he pleases!!!!

-Psalms 115:3

Man that makes me so excited. Go ahead and repeat that verse….Doesn’t it move you to praise God!

On Another Note:  In being honest, I must confess that the last few weeks I have been extremely disappointed with God. Yes you heard me correctly. I asked him for two specific things …I mean I was naming it and claiming it…. Laugh Out Loud… But nothing was happening.

God are you listening to me… (Blank stare)

God have you forgotten about me… (Blank stare)

GODDDDDDDDD…. (Screaming now, with tears flowing down my face )

However God was chilling lol, Why you may ask? Well I could refer to the scripture above and that would be the end of discussion! But… God had given me something way more valuable than the material and physical things that I requested!

He has been showing me through his word to be content in whatever state that I am (which is growth)

He has allowed me to gain a new perception on the reason I am where I am (which is growth)

He has allowed scriptures like the one above to come alive in me again (which is awesome and shows the process of sanctification!)

God is so amazing that he loves us so much, to not just give us the things we want but the things we need! He is developing my character (that’s a big word I know lol) so that I can be a Godly woman in this generation. Now I am not saying God does not answer prayers, but man I love the fact that he does not give us everything we want, when we want it. He does not want us to be spoiled brats (spoiled brats can’t win wars, in fact that don’t even enlist…message!), however he wants us to be mature believers who trust in him so that we can go out and make other mature believers to stand firm in this generation full of spoiled brats who cry, stomp, cheat, steal, lie, and kill to get what they want!

Would I love for Him to answer my prayer requests… Of Course! Can He answer my prayer request… Of Course! Will He answer my prayer request…


Not to us, Not to us, BUT TO YOUR NAME BE THE GLORY!  Psalms 115:1-3

Not to us, O LORD, not to us, but to your name give glory, for your mercy, and for your truth’s sake. Why should the heathen say, Where is now their God? But our God is in the heavens: he has done whatever he has pleased!




“I trust that when I sit, the chair will hold me. I trust when I stand, my legs will balance me. We should trust God more than we trust the things of this world.”
– Lutonya M. Long 

I have been asking God to show me why I feel as though I have been on an emotional roller coaster the last few days. I have been confused about which way I should go in areas of my life and I have been finding myself questioning God’s plan for my life. However, the answer was closer than I realized! I prayed last night that God would reveal to me why I was feeling this way and why things seem to be falling apart around me. The answer was very simple!

I was not trusting God!

I was trying to control how and when things happened in my life, instead of trusting that he had the master plan.

Therefore, from this day forward with the help of God, fellowship with my brothers and sisters in Christ, and prayer from those who love me: 

I will Trust God
I will not lean unto my own understanding
I will not care about what “people” feel is best for me
I will not focus on worldly desires
I will not seek to please others, but learn how to serve them and show them Godly love
I will not let fear control me
I will not assume the worst
I will think before I speak lol lol

Love You All!

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The “S” Word: Sometimes its hard to explain!

Superman-Logo-WallpaperAfter my ectopic pregnancy, I experienced several different feelings and emotions. However “anger” was the most present emotion during that time. I was angry with God, angry with the doctors, angry with myself, angry with the hospital…I was angry at the world. I did not want to be bothered with phone calls or emails from family or friends, nor did not want to pray or read the bible. This was my entitlement. All I wanted to do was sit in silence, and reflect on what had just happened.

After a few days I felt myself slipping into depression, and I knew that I could not hold on to these feelings much longer. I knew that I needed to pray, and get into the word of God. I knew that I needed Gods comfort and peace. It is funny thinking about it now because I remember my mind was saying… “Nope I don’t want to talk to you God, but on the other hand my heart was thirsting for Him.”

I received a phone call from a woman who had just experience losing a child as well the same day as me. Honestly this was the only reason I answered her call. I knew that I needed to encourage her and that during this time I needed to consider her more than myself. We were sharing our stories with each other, and she was telling me how our babies were in heaven with God and that she was finding peace with knowing that. However as she was talking, I felt nothing but anger. I could not even encourage her and she end up trying to encourage me most of the conversation. When we finally got off the phone I felt so bad for not being able to offer her any words of encouragement in return. I began to cry and realized that it was time to be intentional with letting go of my anger.

One of the very first scriptures I was drawn to was located in the first chapter of Job. One of the reasons I decided to read in Job was because I felt that it was relatable to my situation. I have heard that most Christians like to read Job when they are in crisis because they find hope in the conclusion of the book when Job gets back everything he lost. However I believe that God wanted to show me the story in a different way. In chapter one we see that Job had just found out that he had lost everything. He lost his property, all of his wealth, and most importantly his children. Still Job response was quite different than any average human, particularly mines. In verses 20-21 it states that when he received this heartbreaking news this was his response.

 “Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head and fell on the ground and worshiped. And he said, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.” 

Amazing, you may be thinking! However, Job was one of the original action characters in the movie Avengers so this is why he was able to endure in the midst of his storm and still worship God. Not! I know for a fact that as a follower of Christ, this should be my same response. On the other hand, I understand more than some, that it is much easier said than done. Yet we must remember that the word of God never promised us an easy life. In fact he guaranteed us that we would face various trials and tribulations;

James 1:2-4:  Count it all joy, my brothers,[a] when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

…. But he tells us to count it all joy!

As a follower of Christ, will I be tempted to turn my back on God in the mist of trials and tribulations? Sure. As a follower of Christ, will I doubt God’s sovereign plan for my life? Sure. The point I am trying to make is that yes, even believers will face tribulation. However wouldn’t it be nice if our first response was like Jobs, where when we heard devastating news we fell to the floor and worshiped!

I believe that Job responded like this not because he was a “Super Christian,” but because he feared the Lord. No, not “fear” like I am afraid; however fear like, I honor you as the Sovereign ruler over my life. Here we see that even though he grieved the loss of his children and things, as displayed by the tearing of his rob and the shaving his head. Yet he trusted God, which was observed by him falling to the ground to worship.

We may not understand things that happen in our life, but we MUST trust that God is sovereign over all things in your life!

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Also please enjoy this awesome sermon by John Piper on Gods Sovereignty


Sin… That Separates


sinThere definitely comes a time in every believer’s walk, where they “feel” like they are completely separated from God. During this time you also “feel” the weakest in your faith. You ask yourself questions like, why am I so discouraged, or why am I tripping over things I would not normally trip over, or why don’t I feel like praying or getting in my word….

Well there is good news and bad news… The good news is, in the words of my husband, “Praise God you are a believer.” You should find some joy in this, because an unbeliever will never recognize that he or she needs to get back on track. The bad news is, although Christ will never leave us, and as the scripture tells us in Romans 8:39 “Nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord…” We CAN separate ourselves from his presence because of SIN. (This may not be bad news…but it surly is the truth!)

In my confession time with my husband, sometimes I confess to him that I have been yielding to my flesh and not denying thoughts like jealousy or anger. These confessions usually do not come until I realize that I have been behaving in a way that causes my husband to feel attacked. I may not answer him in love, or I may be snappy towards him, or I may even accuse him of things that are not true.

Also during this time, before I come to realize that I am behaving this way; I feel 100% justified in my actions until I recognize that I have not been in my word or prayed in a few days or weeks… and nor do I have the desire too!

What is this called…  Separation (The action or state of moving or being moved apart)

Now you may be saying, how can a believer be separated from God? I would then challenge you to take a look at a marriage that has been separated. Although the couple is still married legally, they are not communicating with each other, spending time with each other, and probably do not have the desire too…or else they would.

The same applies in our walk with Christ, we can separate ourselves from him by not communicating with him, spending time with him, and simply not having the desire to. In addition our sinful nature will have us feeling justified in our sinful actions towards people and God, and we cannot find forgiveness unless we confess our transgressions.

Nevertheless, as a believer you should feel this separation and run back to Christ.

After a few days or weeks of me being self-consumed, sorrow overtakes me and I realize that my actions and behavior has not been pleasing to God. In fact, because I was not in his word or spending any time communicating with him… I begin to feel distinct and empty inside.

BUT PRAISE GOD that HE is faithful… and Christ will remain faithful in loving us, even when we neglect him.

So I repented, (I acknowledge my transgression, I confess my transgression, and I turn from my transgression) and God forgave me.

I then realize that I need his word, because it is refreshing and bring life.

I then realize that I need to pray, because there is power and strength found in my prayers.

The communication is now restored!

Something to meditate on

We may try to hind our sins, cover it up, or even excuse them…but when we do this God cannot deal with it, and you will remain separated from him. However when we pray and ask God for forgiveness we should pray:

  • Create in me a clean heart, O Lord (Psalms 51:8-10)
  • Renew a right spirit within me (Psalms 51:10)
  • Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy Holy Spirit from me (Psalms 51:11)
  • Restore unto me the Joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with a free Spirit (Psalms 51:12)

Totally Devoted To SELF

memyselfIT’S TIME TO BE REAL WITH OURSELVES: Why is it that every nation on earth needs some type of government to create laws, rules and boundaries?? Why do we need rules at our jobs and schools? Why do we need rules when we drive? Why do we need rules in our households?? Why do we need rules in stores, restaurants and wherever else we can think of??

ANSWER: It’s because every person in the world is born with a nature, mindset and will that is totally devoted To SELF!

Self-fulfillment, self-gratification and ultimately SELF-WORSHIP!! Without the implementation of rules and regulations, we would all seek our own selfish desires. And to be honest, most of us wouldn’t even care about those we’ve hurt along the way.

This alone proves the fact that we (All of us) are totally depraved! Sinners from birth. In desperate need of a Savoir.. Romans 3 summarizes it perfectly. (Go read it!). The lie that says that man is “basically good” doesn’t match up, considering the fact that rules and laws HAVE to be made in order to keep human beings from destroying themselves and others. (Like I said at the beginning if this post).

We need to stop medicating and putting a band aid on a wound that can only be healed with the glorious gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ! Our hearts are the problem. Actions reflect the heart. And only Jesus can give you a new heart, new affections and new desires. And please don’t be deceived into thinking that out actions (Or the way we live our lives) don’t matter. The Bible declares that it is appointed a day for each person to die, and after that the judgment.
And yes, hell is real.

But there is hope in Jesus Christ. REAL HOPE! He can really save you. The Bible commands all men to repent (Turn from sin) And trust in Jesus Christ alone for the forgiveness of your sins. (Yes the gospel still works). Lets stop lying to ourselves people. And I say all this with love and deep concern for your eternal well being.


written by: David Beasley

What do I have to give?

women-in-ministry-with-bibles1This is a question you may be asking yourself as you look at family and friends around you, who may not know Jesus Christ or who are simply at a point in their Christian journey where they need a little encouragement or support. However, as much as you want to encourage them or share with the Gospel of Jesus Christ, you find yourself shying away because of the simple question…What do I have to give? I don’t have the words to say…I am still working on myself… Who would want to listen to little ole me… but today I encourage you to STOP!

These are only lies from our adversary, satan. The word of God tells us in Matthew 5:14, “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden.” As a child of God, people will look to you for encouragement, support, and guidance …and it is our job to look to Christ on a daily bases so that we are full of him when we open our mouths to speak. He will give us the words to say and how to say them.

So the next time you are feeling inadequate…say to yourself, I AM the light of this world… open up your heart and allow God to do the rest!

written by: Tiheasha Beasley



What is Encouragement?

How does it look?

Who does it?

How can you get it?

Is it safe to say that in this hopeless, perverse world that encouraging others has become a lost art…especially amongst women and young girls? I mean who really has time to encourage someone else when it does not benefit them in any way. Or, some may be thinking… “How can I find the words to encourage some else, when I have my own problems?” Have we as women, become so self-consumed with our problems, struggles, image, or success… that we now use the words that come to mind that can bring joy and hope to some else to encourage ourselves?

These are questions I sometime find myself pondering, when I feel discouraged or down about something going on in my life. I often wonder…where is that sister in Christ that I can share everything with and she will not judge me or cause me to feel condemned. Or, I wish I had a best friend to be a hundred percent honest with, so that I can let these thoughts off my mind and get the feedback I need to move forward.

LOL… and I know I am not alone!

Unfortunately, again this is more of a problem amongst women and young girls than it is an issue for men and young boys. I sit back and watch the interaction that my husbands have with his friends and accountability partners. If he or any of his brothers in Christ are struggling with issues of lust, insecurities, feelings of rejection from their wife or the woman they are courting, or the pressure they feel to be a good husband and father…it appears to be easier for them to set a date, meet, lay it on the table, get in the word, and pray for one another, and go back home feeling like a 100 bucks!!!

Genius …Who would have guessed!

However, when I speak with different women, I can read it in their faces. As a collective whole, we want to hear that someone understands us and really cares, and that we are not alone. We really want accountability but there are so many things that hold us back, like:


So what can we do in 2013 to move forward and do better?

First we must understand what encouragement is. According to Dictionary.com there are three definitions:

  1. To inspire with courage, spirit, or confidence
  2. To stimulate by assistance, or approval
  3. To promote, advance, or foster

Now ask yourself, how can I start to do these things with the friends and women I have in my life?

Second, we must understand what true encouragement looks like. We can find this example in the word of God. The passage that comes to mind is 1 Corinthians 13:1-13

The Way of Love

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned,but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Love…who would have guessed, that love is the driving force behind reaching out to others and putting them before ourselves.

Next, we should understand that as a believer we are called to encourage one another…

“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.”

-1 Thessalonians 5:11

Last, we should seek encouragement from the body! As difficult as it may be, we can not say that there are not any sisters in the body in which we can confined in and receive that encouragement if we do not seek it. Some tips I would offer to help you find a good accountability partner or just someone you can open up to is:

  1. Invite another sister out for lunch or even for a cup of coffee that you have noticed really strive to live out biblical womanhood.
  2. Attend a women’s bible study ( we invite you to attend BOM  Women’s Bible study if you are ever in the Chicago area)
  3. Start your own women’s bible study with women or girls already in your life, to foster closer relationships. (If you would like some tips on how to start up your own bible study please feel free to contact me! I would love to help)

Thanks for reading! It is truly my prayer that this article has encouraged or inspired you. I pray that 2013 is a great year for you and your families.


The Misconception of Modesty

I have overheard several people say that word “Modesty” was such an old fashion term. In fact they believe that I should change the name Banner of Modesty to something like Banner of Meekness or Banner of Simplicity, or perhaps the Nay Sayers would love Banner of Wack-ness. However, first that will never happen lol… Second, one of the main missions of this organization is to resurrect the word Modesty; not just in theory, but in practice!

Modesty has been resting in peace for far too long… In today’s society we can see the devastating effects that the lack of modesty has provided to this culture. Also this is not just a “secular issue” that excludes Christian women… but now we as a body of believers have to address this issue in some of our local fellowships.

You may ask, “What is Modesty… really?”

On Dictionary.com Modesty have three definitions

  1. Modesty is freedom from vanity and boastfulness
  2. Modesty is a regard for decency and of behavior, speech, dress, ect.
  3. Modesty is simplicity and moderation

According to Wikipedia a modest person does not draw attention to their own real or supposed accomplishments and desirable attributes.

I mean I can go on and on with different definitions found from different resources about how the world defines Modesty. However the real questions are….How is Modesty defined for a woman who professes to be a believer? And how can we see women and girls in this generation impacted and inspired enough, to want to be Modest?

Well first, we can never address Modesty with an unbeliever…they will never understand the concept of being a “Modest Woman” unless they come to know Christ and understand that they are saved by grace and not works. Also we do not want to raise up a generation of “robots,” where we are saying look like this, act like this, think like this, and dress like that.

Next, there is no clear definition for Modesty found in the word of God.


So you may be wondering now, why does the modern church associate the term “Modesty” with “Long Skirts” and “Loose Clothing?” Well my guess is, a lot of traditional pastors like to refer to verses like 1 Peter 3:3-4

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

Or even 1 Timothy 2:9

Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,

And hands down the argument that the bible does clearly address this term can be won with those two verses alone…

Nope! This is still not a clear definition of Modesty.

We must take a look at these verse hermeneutically (hermeneutics according to Wikipedia, is the art and science of text interpretation). Although Paul appeared to be addressing the issue of the way a woman adorns herself and dress, the underlining meaning of these verse were to encourage Christian women to simple live….HOLY.

Yep…Paul was addressing the issues of the heart and not the hemline!

Let’s Take a Deeper Look:

1st, the Author of 1 Timothy is Paul and Peter was the Author of 1 Peter

2nd, Their audience both times were Christian Women, (meaning they believed that the women they were addressing in these passages had somewhere in there life confessed that Jesus Christ died on the cross for their sins)

3rd, The time period was around A.D. 59-61 and during this time, history shows us that women typically wore Stola’s which were very simple, long pieces of cloth, that doubled in the middle, and was sewed up on both sides, leaving room only for the arms and a slit at the top for the head. However, some of the women wore them open on each side, from the bottom up above the knee, so as to discover a part of the thigh. This was typically done by very young women or immodest women of their time. Also we learn if we study the background of both books, that the Gentile women adorn themselves with bands of gold and arranged their hair in plaits also known as braids.

So before I continue we can gather from our brief history lesson, that all women during the time Paul wrote 1 Timothy and Peter wrote 1 Peter wore long loose fitting robes down to their feet.

The next thing we can gather is that if the only difference between the robes were the slits on the side that showed a little thigh, typically worn by younger a woman.

And last, we can clearly see here that during this particular time period, women who adorned themselves in gold and pearls were the Gentile women. These women did not know Christ, and idolized their beauty and image.

So our final observation should be here just based on the background, is that Paul and Peter did not use the illustration of clothing to show us what the right way to dress was or the wrong way to dress was. They simply gave this illustration to encourage Christian women, who professed godliness, to live out what they profess and not conform to the world around them.

They were stating… don’t be consumed with the gold jewelry and or pearls, or how your hair looks… Do not let your adorning be external like the young girls or the Gentile woman; but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

They were stating, have self-control over vanity and the idol desires of your heart.

Surly Paul and Peter could not have foreseen todays fashion trends of skinny jeans, halter tops, and hair extensions… However because of Gods sovereignty they were able to preach a message then that we can apply to our life now, which is to pursue Godliness.

So for the believing woman, the clear message in these verses is, Godly women are modest women because they have a desire to please God. It is not… Godly women should dress in long skirts with no jewelry or hair weaving because this will make her appear modest.

It is always a heart check. Banner of Modesty will never address your appearance first, because we know that if we teach women how to “look like” Christians, we will still be doing an injustice to this generation of women and young girls. Anyone can put on “church clothes” in the words of Lecrea, and appear to have it all together. In fact, I know a few women who appear to be naturally meek and humble and unfashionable in their appearance, but behind closed doors struggles with lust, adultery, and even pornography. However, if we focus on the things that woman deal with in their heart like; rejections, loneliness, hurt, shame, pride, low self-esteem, lust, and many other things and point them to Christ as the one who can redeem them and restore them in all areas of their life, then that is where we will began to see an impact on the way woman present themselves in a immodest society.

Abortion…My free will!

I just saw a very sickening post by a very “influential” woman of “God” which stated that she believes in “free will.” This was her post to be exact:

“I support freedom of choice…. Let people live the life they choose to live… I really don’t get whats the big deal over same sex marriage or abortion… Let people make their own decisions..”

I only reposted what she wrote because I do not want to take her words and twist them. However, I am boiling in the inside… Is this how our next generation of “Christian” role models think and feel?

Okay this is not easy but here I go…

To begin, I will start by saying that there is no man that is perfect (Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God). I believe that God sees all sins the same, and yes there is no difference between lying, lusting, stealing, or homosexuality…(James 2:10 For the person who keeps all of the laws except one is as guilty as a person who has broken all of God’s laws).We all need a savior! I try my best not to judge, but to love all people. Yes it is my desire to see everyone live a biblical lifestyle and I try my best to be an example…even in my mistakes. However, as a believer who has been regenerated…I WILL NOT COMPROMISE my beliefs in what the word of God says…not even for President Obama.

Next, before someone comes at my head lol, (deep breath…transparent moment.) I made the decision to have an abortion when I was in college. I am not proud of my decision, and I have asked God to forgive me, and I know that I am healed by the emotional scares that my decision has made. However, although this was my decision, I could only wish that I had someone to take me by the hand and tell me that first, this decision that I was making would not only break the heart of Christ, but that it would also cause so many emotional scares in my life that would take YEARS to repair. I knew I had the “right” to exercise my “freedoms,” but I wish that someone told me that it could have cost me my life! Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

I am an ex-murder. My freedoms caused me to kill a child….my child. I did not share this with my parents for several years out of shame, and when I got married I was still dealing with the pain of my decision from the past…. And if it was not for Jesus Christ, dying on that cross for my sins or my so called freedoms…I would be going to hell.

So I will shout this from the roof top! Ladies… YES you may feel that you have the right to have an abortion, but I would urge you to consider this….

  1. Abortion is equivalent to Murder and Murder is a sinI did justify my actions for a long time. I felt that I could not have this child because I would disappoint so many people. I also did not want to have a baby daddy, and since I was still in college, having a baby without being married did not fit into my “perfect plans.”
  2. You may move on, but you will not forget! It was not until I was married, pregnant with my first child, and after we lost the baby because of an ectopic pregnancy that I realized that I still felt guilty for having the abortion.
  3. I can not support your decision….(Romans 1:32 Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.) You may be saying, well I don’t care if you approve or not, you don’t understand what I am going through. I will say to that…I know exactly what you are going through. You feel lost, lonely, afraid, disappointed in yourself, and hurt; and I want to tell you that I do care. That is why I can not support your decision. I know what comes alone with having an abortion. I am not judging you, and if you email me…I will personally pray with you and see that you get connected with the resources you need. But as a believer, Gods word tells me that I can not approve of your decision.

Although this was a very difficult article to write, I pray that someone reconsiders their “free will,” after they read this. In fact, if you are a believer please pray with me for the leaders of our youth groups, teachers, or mentoring organizations. Let’s pray that they themselves develop a true relationship with Christ, so that they can really lead this generation in the way that they should go.

Very Truly Yours,

Tiheasha Denise Beasley,

Founder of Banner of Modesty