About Tiheasha Beasley

Founder & Editor of Banner of Modesty, Author, Christian Fashion Blogger, and Modesty Coach.

Darragh Moore: Diamond in the Rough

OMG!!! Last night while watching the BET awards, I got highly disgusted with the attire that a lot of the woman celebrities were wearing. From the hot pink suit that singer K. Michelle rocked with no bra or no shirt on underneath, to the blue dress that actress Megan Good strolled out in to present the gospel award….it was a mess! I must have not received the memo, however when did wearing no bra or shirt underneath a blazer or very very low cut shirt or dress become HOTTT!

Okay let’s back up and rewind! I love the hot pink suit K. Michelle rocked… “Pink is my signature color” and her hair was banging…but would it have hurt her to put a shirt on :-/ Then she had the nerves to sing amazing grace, but I digress… Next, I hate the message that a lot of the entertainers are sending out to the woman in this generation. I mean it is so confusing! They are wearing classy outfits and making them look trashy by neglecting to complete the outfit with a simple bra and shirt! Then we get upset when professional and amateur artist make songs that degrade woman.

CraeOn another note, I was so glad to see that my sister in Christ, Darragh Moore represented for the Modern Christian Woman. Unfortunately, Darragh Moore is getting a lot of slack for rocking her darling sequence dress that stopped a little bit pass her arms. To be honest, her dress did not reveal any of her body parts, and it tastefully covered her chest area. To be fair could the dress have been a little bit longer…maybe, but she knows her own conviction. As a believer we have the Holy Spirit to rely on, and He will check our hearts and lead us in the way we should go. Nevertheless compared to a lot of the woman who crossed the red carpet last night, she was a diamond in the rough!

If we refer back to the true definition of modesty in my article The Misconception of Modesty

  1. Modesty is freedom from vanity and boastfulness
  2. Modesty is a regard for decency and of behavior, speech, dress, ect.
  3. Modesty is simplicity and moderation

Also we learned in that article Modesty is NOT defined in the word of God; however Paul and Peter were addressing the issues of the heart and not the hemline!

I am not sure what Darragh’s motives were when she got dressed for the 2013 BET Awards, however I do not believe it was to seek attention. I think she wanted to look fabulous for her husband and yet modest…and honestly this is a very difficult task, but I think she pulled if off very tastefully…That’s why I think, and call  Darragh Moore a Banner of Modesty!

Walking by Faith… I don’t know, I may be failing

I am going to be transparent…because that is what I do lol!

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However, I went back to work after having my beautiful son Nehemiah, full time. I requested to go part-time and it was denied…they even offered me a raise because of my work performance…go figure. However my heart’s desire is to be a stay at home mom and wife, and do ministry (Banner of Modesty) full time. At the moment that is not possible. However, I am struggling with the concept of trusting God…

Do I just trust God when I am comfortable and every things is okay, or can I trust God when I don’t see how he is going to provide and take care of me :-/ Do I use wisdom and wait for an opportunity to come for me to move towards my desires or do I move towards my desires and trust God?

I don’t like being in this place…. I like answer, like most humans. I don’t know how to take a walk of Faith! I thought I did, but this situation is teaching me that I don’t. I walk in faith with the things I have the ability to do …like working a job I am not happy at, and I have faith it will continue to provide for me and my family lol. Is that walking by faith or by sight?

This is such a dilemma…I need your prayers for me and my family.

Also one thing I am sure of is that, “My God is in the heavens…and he does whatever that he pleases!” So I do trust him with my life… I guess I am just ready to see the outcome.

Any Biblical advice?

He does whatever that he pleases!!! #Lesson Learned

heavenHu-Man will never understand the majestic wonders of Jesus Christ! It is now 2013 and I am still trying to figure out why God allowed certain things to happen to me wayyyyyy back in 1998! However this is normal! We are humans and we will never understand why God allows “bad things to happen to good people,” or “why the rich seem to keep getting richer,” or ect ect.  But one thing that has given me peace as a believer is knowing….

Our God is in the heavens; he does all that he pleases!!!!

-Psalms 115:3

Man that makes me so excited. Go ahead and repeat that verse….Doesn’t it move you to praise God!

On Another Note:  In being honest, I must confess that the last few weeks I have been extremely disappointed with God. Yes you heard me correctly. I asked him for two specific things …I mean I was naming it and claiming it…. Laugh Out Loud… But nothing was happening.

God are you listening to me… (Blank stare)

God have you forgotten about me… (Blank stare)

GODDDDDDDDD…. (Screaming now, with tears flowing down my face )

However God was chilling lol, Why you may ask? Well I could refer to the scripture above and that would be the end of discussion! But… God had given me something way more valuable than the material and physical things that I requested!

He has been showing me through his word to be content in whatever state that I am (which is growth)

He has allowed me to gain a new perception on the reason I am where I am (which is growth)

He has allowed scriptures like the one above to come alive in me again (which is awesome and shows the process of sanctification!)

God is so amazing that he loves us so much, to not just give us the things we want but the things we need! He is developing my character (that’s a big word I know lol) so that I can be a Godly woman in this generation. Now I am not saying God does not answer prayers, but man I love the fact that he does not give us everything we want, when we want it. He does not want us to be spoiled brats (spoiled brats can’t win wars, in fact that don’t even enlist…message!), however he wants us to be mature believers who trust in him so that we can go out and make other mature believers to stand firm in this generation full of spoiled brats who cry, stomp, cheat, steal, lie, and kill to get what they want!

Would I love for Him to answer my prayer requests… Of Course! Can He answer my prayer request… Of Course! Will He answer my prayer request…

 OUR GOD IS IN THE HEAVENS; HE DOES ALL THAT HE PLEASES!!!!

Not to us, Not to us, BUT TO YOUR NAME BE THE GLORY!  Psalms 115:1-3

Not to us, O LORD, not to us, but to your name give glory, for your mercy, and for your truth’s sake. Why should the heathen say, Where is now their God? But our God is in the heavens: he has done whatever he has pleased!

TRUST THE RIGHT PERSON!

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“I trust that when I sit, the chair will hold me. I trust when I stand, my legs will balance me. We should trust God more than we trust the things of this world.”
– Lutonya M. Long 

I have been asking God to show me why I feel as though I have been on an emotional roller coaster the last few days. I have been confused about which way I should go in areas of my life and I have been finding myself questioning God’s plan for my life. However, the answer was closer than I realized! I prayed last night that God would reveal to me why I was feeling this way and why things seem to be falling apart around me. The answer was very simple!

I was not trusting God!

I was trying to control how and when things happened in my life, instead of trusting that he had the master plan.

Therefore, from this day forward with the help of God, fellowship with my brothers and sisters in Christ, and prayer from those who love me: 

I will Trust God
I will not lean unto my own understanding
I will not care about what “people” feel is best for me
I will not focus on worldly desires
I will not seek to please others, but learn how to serve them and show them Godly love
I will not let fear control me
I will not assume the worst
I will think before I speak lol lol

Love You All!

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Transform Yourself!

lost idenitySo many people in this generation have lost their identity to sex, drugs and emotionally discombobulated relationships…They do not understand that God have created every man and woman for a greater purpose; so they live each moment of their lives bound by failures, heartbreaks and disappointments. Fortunately, there is a solution to this problem!

Although there may be fundamental reasons to why people become trapped by their loss of identity; the number one cause of emotional discombobulation and lack of personal identification is “yourself.” The term “you are your greatest enemy” is very true. You have the ability to hold yourself back from becoming the best you that you could ever be…..

So as of today, lets try to be positive and focus on living the life that God created for us. Lets deny our flesh, stop complaining and learn how to serve others.

“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Romans 12:2

Love you all and have a Blessed Day!

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Who Said Shorts Can’t Be Modest!

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“There is no way to wear shorts and be modest,” you may be thinking….

But I think NOT!

You most certainly can rock a pair of shorts from time to time and still be the Banner of Modesty you strive to be…Here’s How!

knee1. Rule of thumb… dump the short shorts, and head over to the Grown Woman length. This is the point a little above the knees, and right pass the thighs (see image to the left)

2. If it don’t fit you must acquit! Not saying you should wear baggy shorts, however find a pair that fits you nicely… (If you can not breath in them or zip them up, you might want to charge it to the game!)

3. Please Please Don’t Do It…Do not put those shorts on that show “that”…None of us want to see “that”! And you know what “that” I am referring too lol!

With these simple and quick tips, you can be on your way to enjoying a nice pair of diva shorts!

Enjoy 🙂

Lace It Up

Lace is all grown up now and has become one of the new hottttt trends for 2013!

Can you believe that!

I remember as a little girl, wearing the cute little church socks with lace wrapped around them and thought I was doing the most lol… Now lace is making a huge come back!

At my church service on yesterday one of my sister’s in Christ was wearing a very hot black lace pencil shirt and I had to do a little investigating to see what was going on with this look.

Come to find out it was listed as the #2 fashion trend for 2013 at ELLE.com. So go ahead and don’t be scared… try a dash of lace and #turnitup!

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The “S” Word: Sometimes its hard to explain!

Superman-Logo-WallpaperAfter my ectopic pregnancy, I experienced several different feelings and emotions. However “anger” was the most present emotion during that time. I was angry with God, angry with the doctors, angry with myself, angry with the hospital…I was angry at the world. I did not want to be bothered with phone calls or emails from family or friends, nor did not want to pray or read the bible. This was my entitlement. All I wanted to do was sit in silence, and reflect on what had just happened.

After a few days I felt myself slipping into depression, and I knew that I could not hold on to these feelings much longer. I knew that I needed to pray, and get into the word of God. I knew that I needed Gods comfort and peace. It is funny thinking about it now because I remember my mind was saying… “Nope I don’t want to talk to you God, but on the other hand my heart was thirsting for Him.”

I received a phone call from a woman who had just experience losing a child as well the same day as me. Honestly this was the only reason I answered her call. I knew that I needed to encourage her and that during this time I needed to consider her more than myself. We were sharing our stories with each other, and she was telling me how our babies were in heaven with God and that she was finding peace with knowing that. However as she was talking, I felt nothing but anger. I could not even encourage her and she end up trying to encourage me most of the conversation. When we finally got off the phone I felt so bad for not being able to offer her any words of encouragement in return. I began to cry and realized that it was time to be intentional with letting go of my anger.

One of the very first scriptures I was drawn to was located in the first chapter of Job. One of the reasons I decided to read in Job was because I felt that it was relatable to my situation. I have heard that most Christians like to read Job when they are in crisis because they find hope in the conclusion of the book when Job gets back everything he lost. However I believe that God wanted to show me the story in a different way. In chapter one we see that Job had just found out that he had lost everything. He lost his property, all of his wealth, and most importantly his children. Still Job response was quite different than any average human, particularly mines. In verses 20-21 it states that when he received this heartbreaking news this was his response.

 “Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head and fell on the ground and worshiped. And he said, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.” 

Amazing, you may be thinking! However, Job was one of the original action characters in the movie Avengers so this is why he was able to endure in the midst of his storm and still worship God. Not! I know for a fact that as a follower of Christ, this should be my same response. On the other hand, I understand more than some, that it is much easier said than done. Yet we must remember that the word of God never promised us an easy life. In fact he guaranteed us that we would face various trials and tribulations;

James 1:2-4:  Count it all joy, my brothers,[a] when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

…. But he tells us to count it all joy!

As a follower of Christ, will I be tempted to turn my back on God in the mist of trials and tribulations? Sure. As a follower of Christ, will I doubt God’s sovereign plan for my life? Sure. The point I am trying to make is that yes, even believers will face tribulation. However wouldn’t it be nice if our first response was like Jobs, where when we heard devastating news we fell to the floor and worshiped!

I believe that Job responded like this not because he was a “Super Christian,” but because he feared the Lord. No, not “fear” like I am afraid; however fear like, I honor you as the Sovereign ruler over my life. Here we see that even though he grieved the loss of his children and things, as displayed by the tearing of his rob and the shaving his head. Yet he trusted God, which was observed by him falling to the ground to worship.

We may not understand things that happen in our life, but we MUST trust that God is sovereign over all things in your life!

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Also please enjoy this awesome sermon by John Piper on Gods Sovereignty

http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-library/sermons/to-be-a-mother-is-a-call-to-suffer

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You can not go wrong with this amazing look!

Grey pencil skirt, white blouse with burgundy jacket and accessories.

Rock this to work, church, or business meeting.

Who said being Modest was boring!

Tip: If you are a modest diva on a budget, try the local co-consignment boutique in your neighborhood. Business divas like to resale their goods!